Embracing Loss: A Journey of Healing and Transformation
When we lose a loved one, we tend to try to get over it as soon as possible so that we can move on with our lives. We suppress our emotions, and that’s not really healthy and in some cases it’s not even possible.
When we lose someone dear to us, the world shifts. The ground beneath our feet trembles, and emotions surge like tidal waves. Grief, anger, and pain intertwine, leaving us vulnerable and raw.
For most of my life, I was disconnected from my feelings. But dealing with loss, especially when I lost my mother, was a transformative experience. The process took more than two years. Yet, it was through this journey that I opened myself up to spirituality and deeper emotional connections. I became more resilient, calm, and compassionate towards myself and others.
I lost my father when I was just 27. At the time I struggled to process the emotions and pushed through it as we would do in our family. It wasn’t until I lost a friend years later that I began to truly confront my grief.
Grief is one of the most powerful emotions I’ve ever felt, and it reshaped my understanding of myself and my emotions.
The Unexpected Journey
When my mother passed away, the experience was different. The process of grieving stretched over two years, punctuated by uncontrolled anger and days of unfamiliar pain. Yet, within that pain, I found unexpected gifts. I opened myself to spirituality, allowing it to weave threads of resilience and calmness into my being. Compassion for myself and others blossomed.
A Message from Beyond
A few days ago, my wife and I attended an event where a medium channeled messages from the spiritual world. When she mentioned the event, I immediately agreed to go, sensing something was there for me. During the event, the medium had a message from my mother. At first, I was surprised and shocked. I was skeptical at first, but slowly my resistance softened, and I received her words. But what did it mean to make peace with the departed?
Beyond Farewells
We often think of making peace with the ones who’ve left, but perhaps it’s more about making peace with ourselves. They remain unchanged, having completed their final transition. We, however, evolve. Regrets surface—things unsaid, actions undone. Not in the sense of remorse, but acknowledgments of missed opportunities.
Changing Our Narrative
In my current life, I strive to become a better version of myself. I examine my past, seeking growth. Making peace isn’t about the ones who went away; it’s about reconciling with my memories, and the perception of who I was. When we do this, it is like shedding of an old skin. We create space for transformation, for the person we aspire to become.
The Opportunity in Loss
When someone dies, a part of us dies too, and we must let go of that part to make space for the person we want to become. This process involves making peace with who we were. We confront ourselves with our shortcomings, flaws and imperfections. It is an image that is hard to look at. I understood in that event that each loss offers an opportunity for profound change, to reconcile with our past and embrace life anew.
In embracing this journey, I have found a path towards becoming a better person, more attuned to my emotions and more at peace with life.